Why I Didn't Buy You A Drink (5 pics)

What I heard was that you bought a girl a drink to piss another girl off because she was being a demanding bitch. While I in no way condemn you, I don't think you're as good of a guy as you think you are. First off, you were leading the big girl on for your own personal gain. You're intentions may have been noble (To make her feel good about herself), however if your friend hadn't showed up, what would you have done at the end of the night? "Uh, you're really nice and all, but I'm sorry, the only reason I bought you a drink or really talked to you at all was to piss off that pretty girl I was with when you saw me."

Should a girl ask for a drink, no. I don't believe expecting a free drink is acceptable, and I don't think that not buying a girl a drink makes you a dick. I personally have never asked for a drink. Do I expect someone to buy me a drink after a night of great conversation, no. But if I'm being honest, if you're not willing to throw down seven buck and get me a vodka cranberry, you're not worth my time. I've been a starving artist for years now, and I can still buy my man a drink.

Are you kidding me?? How is this remotely important? There are some serious issues in the world and you have the nerve to waste your own time and energy on this bullshit?? This is NOT important! Where are your priorities? For shame....

I'm a girl and I totally agree, with everything you said. I'd buy you a drink anytime

Ok firstly - to those people who think you can't find a real relationship in a bar I would have to disagree. Nice people do go to bars too you know, it's not just douchey people out there for game playing. There is no reason you can't meet someone and have a connection with them. I can think of at least 3 times I have met a guy in a bar and it has turned into a relationship.

Secondly - to those people who are offended on behalf of the "big girl" who got the pity drink, I'm sure she wouldn't agree. She had a much better night then she would have if this guy had have stood back and done nothing. And just because he bought her a drink it doesn't mean she should necessarily think it will lead to anything. Even if the open minded friend hadn't been there she should have been ok with a "It was nice to meet you, goodnight" at the end of the night.

Thirdly - Bravo to the author for this post, you shouldn't just accept that you need to buy a girl a drink to pay for her company. She should want to talk to you as much as you want to talk to her so there should be no need to balance the equation with a free drink. And if she doesn't want to talk to you without the drink you should find someone who does.

Thank you for posting this! I'm a lady, and I often feel uncomfortable about accepting drinks for the same reasons you choose not to offer them. If I'm going to spend time with someone at a bar, it will be because I enjoy their company (or, admittedly, want to take them home), not because I'm trying to repay a debt with my charms and what have you.
It's frustrating, though, because just like the girl called this poster "stuck-up", I've had several men say the same about me for refusing to play the game and wanting to pay my own way.

On behalf of all of us women who find girls like this to be a blight on the rest of us, a big thumbs up to you! Guys, if a woman ASKS you to buy her a drink she's a scammer. Just walk away. If you both buy your own drinks and you end up getting along with a woman and you offer to buy her a drink later then that is just lovely and chivalrous but if a woman is a truly nice person, she will repay the compliment by buying (or at least offering to buy) one for you too.

Women, have a bit of pride and buy your own damn drinks!!

There are SO MANY girls who go to clubs just to do that! My friends even say "we don't need any money...we'll just have guys buy us drinks" as we're going out. I, for one, feel bad doing that and then not at least dancing with the poor guy! But at the same time, I would NEVER sleep with a guy for the price of a shitty, watered-down Rum & Diet Coke. I guess I have different morals than most of the 3/4 naked "girls" who go out showing their assets and then getting pissed when a guy calls them a slut. Just wanted to share that not all girls are like that...and I've been told I'm pretty damn hot ;-)

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I couldn't agree more--chubby girl comments aside, you make an excellent point. good looking people act entitled sometimes, and some women take advantage of men to get free drinks. these things are wrong. personally, i don't go anywhere if i don't have the money to pay for myself, even when i'm going out with my boyfriend.

Ive had a girl come up in a club, that i never even saw before and ask me to buy her a drink. I immediately said "Are you going to give me a blow job if i do?" . She was disgusted and walked off. hahaha

stupid ass comment with the chubby chick thing but good for you. women can buy their own drinks. I certainly do not need you too, and I turn them down when offered because most likely its some loser looking for ass

Heh heh so true

Mate i fully agree with you, respect.

I liked your post, but not all of it.

I agree that women who expect free drinks are extremely lame, but they wouldn't do it if there weren't so many idiots that open their wallets to them. No, women today are not becoming more "whoreish" as one moron poster has commented in this thread, but rather, this sort of relationship between men and women has been going on for thousands of years.

I'm glad you told that young woman you wouldn't buy her a drink. Too bad her ego had to get in the way. I'm still appalled she asked when you were going to buy her a drink "already." Ugh.

I do feel you were kind of a prick when you wrote that buying a fat girl a drink will feel better than an orgasm with the fine arts student. Ugh. That was just as pukey. You could have just walked away. Instead, you used the fat girl to get some sort of fucked up revenge on the skinny attractive girl. Basically, you're kind of just as bad. Stay away from those places and meet a real human being.

Great post! i really do think there is a lot of "prowlers" on a night out... male and female, and anyone that is out in a club is always looking for something, whether it be a free night out, attention or someone to go home with.

one thing that ive found to work a cham is to be really cheeky and pre-empt the "are you going to buy me a drink question"... either ask the question yourself or when asked say " are you joking? here's me talking to you all night, my time aint cheap ya know"... make sure to have a cheeky smile while saying it tho.
it will put a lot of women on the back foot and empower you to (if you actually want one) get a free drink, or just to ignore the question altogether and continue the conversation while a lady knows she will get challenged if she thinks she can get a free ride :-D